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Men Speak Out Against Sexist Coverage of Rape: A Call to Action

By Over 40 Male activists, professors, authors, actors, therapists and other leaders from the nation's anti-violence movement have signed this call to action. , , on 04/104

Men Speak Out About Sexist Coverage of Rape: A Call to Action
~April 2011~


In the struggle to stop rape and all forms of men’s violence against women, it is time for men to
leave the sidelines and get in the game. One important step we can take is to raise our voices and insist
that the spotlight in media coverage of rape turns away from a fixation on victims and their behavior
and instead focuses on abusive men and boys – and the culture that produces and makes excuses for
them. We make this demand not only as concerned citizens and responsible members of our
communities – but as men from virtually every cultural/racial/ethnic/religious background.

There is some progress to report, albeit progress in response to yet another depressing
reminder of how far we still have to come. Consider this: reaction to the victim-blaming in a recent New
York Times story about a brutal gang rape in East Texas has been fast and furious. Over the past several
weeks, columnists, bloggers, victim advocates and anti-rape activists – women and men – have criticized
the March 8 Times story for the way its use of selective quotes suggested that an 11-year-old girl in
effect contributed to the assault against her by “wearing make-up and fashions more appropriate to a
woman in her twenties.” In addition, critics have responded to the perception conveyed in the article
that among the residents of Cleveland, Texas there is greater concern for the nineteen men and boys
facing allegations of rape than for the young girl.

The Times Public Editor Arthur Brisbane agreed with much of the criticism of the piece: “My
assessment,” he wrote just a few days later, “is that the outrage is understandable. The story dealt with
a hideous crime but addressed concerns about the ruined lives of the perpetrators without
acknowledging the obvious: concern for the victim.” (The Times front page follow-up story on March 28
did a lot better, offering an extended portrait of the girl, whom they described as having been “an honor
roll student, brimming with enthusiasm.”)

This tragic case will provide lessons for future news writing classes and journalistic ethics
seminars. Clearly, news operations need guidance about how to cover sex crimes without perpetuating
misogynous cultural attitudes.

But for those of us who work to end men’s violence against women, this incident is less about
the specific details of one horrific act of rape in a distressed community in Texas, and more about the
broader themes of power, privilege, misogyny, class and race that the act itself–and the coverage it
generated – so poignantly exemplify.

We have to ask some difficult questions: why would a group of men and boys sexually violate a
vulnerable 11-year-old girl? What does this say not only about them or the small community where
they live, but about the society – our society – that raised them? "What are we teaching men and boys
about their attitudes and behavior towards girls?" and even further..."What are we teaching men and
boys about themselves?"

Because of the class, ethnicity, and race of those involved, some people will predictably
attribute this atrocity to the effects of poverty and fatherlessness, which is a coded reference to family
dysfunction in communities of color. But gang rapes and the attitudes behind them are perpetrated by
wealthy and middle-class white men and boys, too, including boys from “intact” families with present
fathers. Just last October at Yale University, DKE pledges marched on Old Campus-- home to the
majority of Yale's first-year female students--chanting "No means yes" along with graphic sexual slurs
that both demeaned women and glorified sexual violence. White men with privilege routinely
perpetrate unspeakable sexual crimes against women in their own families, as well as other women and
girls. What’s the explanation for their sexist violence?

It seems to us that while questions of class and race are germane in this and many other cases,
they are far less relevant than questions of gender. In particular, unless we believe that males across
the board are born genetically deficient, we need to ask some fundamental questions, i.e.: How do we
socialize our boys? How do we assign certain attitudes and behaviors as “normal?” And, ultimately:
What does it mean to be a man in 21st century America?

For too many young men, communal rituals of sexism perpetuate negative notions of
manhood. Most of us are rightly horrified when we read about gang rape. But group sexual assault is
best understood as being at the extreme end of a continuum of behaviors that normalize men’s sexist
treatment of women. What about college guys hiring strippers for private parties and openly calling
those women “bitches and hoes”? And let’s not forget – an entire genre in pornography is devoted to
simulated scenes of gang rape which in many quarters is considered socially acceptable entertainment
for men, who sometimes watch it in groups.

One of the most disturbing aspects of this gang rape (as in others) is how often the alleged
perpetrators videotape the event. In the Cleveland, Texas assault, the police investigation was
prompted, according to the Times, when an elementary school student alerted a teacher to a cell phone
video that included one of her classmates. Why would men videotape an incident that literally
documents their commission of a first-degree felony unless they thought 1) there was absolutely no
chance of them being caught or 2) they weren’t doing anything wrong?

It is this last possibility that is most disturbing, because it implicates not just the men and boys
who have been charged with the crime, but all of us. What role does each of us play in defining and
perpetuating social norms? Moreover, what is the responsibility of adult men not only to girls, but to
boys? What is the responsibility that each of us has to teach, mentor and model for younger men and
boys non-sexist attitudes and behaviors toward women?

It is important to emphasize that we can primarily be concerned about the actual victim in this
case and be empathetic with the boys and young men who are charged with this awful crime. How
many of them were coerced to participate by older adolescents and young adults? How many of the
younger boys acquiesced because they wanted to fit in and be respected as “one of the guys?”
Like other gang rapes, the East Texas case furnishes a powerful metaphor about silence and
complicity, because gang rapes can often be prevented if just one guy takes a stand. Can it really be
true that there wasn’t one guy – or more -- in the group who knew this was terribly wrong? If so, then
what were the internal dynamics of the group that prevented anyone from interrupting or stopping the
process? Are men (and boys) so scared of each other that no one will speak out for fear that other men
will think less of them, or worse, turn the violence on them?

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. But while awareness about sexual assault is a crucial
first step, it is not enough. For men in particular, we need more of a willingness to act – both locally and
globally. When men speak out about rape and other forms of violence against women, we make it clear
to other men that we do not tolerate or condone the mistreatment of women. We also send the
message that men who mistreat women will face seriously negative social consequences for doing so –
not just legal consequences. Join us and the women who have been doing this work for years. Stand up
and speak out for an end to sexual violence!

In peace and gender justice,

Bernardo Villafane, New Start Services
Byron Hurt
Charles Knight, Other & Beyond Real Men
Craig Norberg-Bohm, Jane Doe Inc.
Dasan Harrington
David S. Lee, PreventConnect / California Coalition Against Sexual Assault
David J. Pate, Jr. PhD., Center on Family Policy and Practice/University of Wisconsin-Milwaukee
Dick Bathrick, Bathrick Consulting
Don McPherson
Ed Gondolf, Ph.D.
Emiliano Diaz de Leon, Texas Association Against Sexual Assault
Etiony Aldarondo, Ph.D
Gary Barker, PhD, Promundo and MenEngage Alliance
Greg Jacob, Service Women's Action Network
Horace Campbell
Ivan Juzang, Mee Productions
Jackson Katz, Ph.D.
Jeff O'Brien & Daryl Fort, Mentors in Violence Prevention (MVP)
Jeffrey L. Edleson, Ph.D., University of Minnesota
Joe Ehrmann, Coach for America
Joseph Maldonado, CONNECT Men's Roundtable
Joshua Bee Alafia, Filmmaker
Juan Carlos Arean & Feroz Moideen, Family Violence Prevention Fund
Juan Ramos, North Brooklyn Coalition Against Family Violence
Kevin Powell
Lumumba Akinwole-Bandele
Michael Kimmel, Ph.D.
Michael A. Messner, University of Southern California
Michael Shaw, Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault Services, Waypoint
Neil Irvin & Pat McGann, Ph.D., Men Can Stop Rape
Paul Kivel
Quentin Walcott & Marlon Walker, CONNECT NYC
Rob Okun, VOICE MALE Magazine
Rus Funk, MensWork
Dr. Stephen Jefferson, UMass, Amherst
Steven Botkin, Ed.D., Men's Resources International
Sut Jhally, Media Education Foundation
Ted Bunch & Tony Porter, A CALL TO MEN
Ulester Douglas & Sulaiman Nuriddin, Men Stopping Violence
Victor Rivas Rivers, Actor, Author, Spokesperson/National Network to End Domestic Violence &
Verizon Community Champion





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